“Well, it’s now been a month since I last saw my son and I don’t know when, or even if, I’ll see him again. I’m back to square one again, wondering who I am. And what I am. Am I a father? Am I even a man? I don’t particularly feel like I’m either one of those. Was I ever either of them? I examine myself from every angle possible and wonder who and what I am without my son. Where do I go from here? What do I do? Who am I really? Only time will tell.<br />After spending four years struggling to do what I felt was the best thing for my son, just to have it thrown away on a whim, has made me question everything I believe as well as who I am yet again.<br />The only oasis in the bleak landscape I’m now faced with is the weekly Dads In Distress meetings. If it wasn’t for those meetings I’d probably have lost my sanity by now at the very least.”
Participant – David Gowers, 2003
“I met David through Tony Miller of Dads in Distress. David was able to move on with the help of DIDS. What helped him the most was ” stop complaining about her and take a mirror to yourself and see what you did or didn’t do to make the relationship fall apart”. That probably applies to both men and women.”
Photographer – Belinda Mason, 2004